Title: Near the Cross Stood His Mother
Text: John 19:25-27
A talk given at Overdale United Methodist Church, Louisville, Kentucky, on May 13, 2012. Click here to listen to the talk. Right click to download the talk as an MP3.
What a beautiful but piercing image of motherhood, Mary standing near the cross of her suffering son Jesus. Her son is assailed by a system and a people who know only violence, hate and greed, and his mother stands with him to the painful end, near the cross.
Mothers are defenders of their children and go to great lengths to protect their children. One woman in Memphis, Tennessee was a bit excessive last year. Monika Spraggins observed a neighbor selling weed to her 12-year-old son, and she decided to take matters into her own hands. Police say Spraggins broke a chair and then used a leg to beat the drug dealer. Police say she “went Old Testament” on the dealer. The drug dealer was seen bleeding from the head outside the home and was sent to a hospital for stitches and swelling. Though I don’t recommend her tactics, this mom was just acting out the frustration that mothers today feel as they stand by helplessly and see their children ripped apart by drugs, alcohol, consumerism, and violence.
Our children are suffering. Many look at their lives, their families, their communities and their future and see nothing but a dark, hopeless, desolate future. The alarming statistics on teen suicide reveal the hopelessness and despair many of our youth experience today . An Indiana Attorney General study reports that youth suicide is the third leading cause of death for young people ages 15 – 24 and the second leading cause for college-age youth. Suicide even affects pre-teens and is the fourth leading cause of death for youth ages 10 – 14. When asked if they had experienced a feeling of hopelessness and sadness for a constant period of two weeks or greater during the past 12 months (the possible beginning of clinical depression) – 27.5% of youth said they had felt that way. That is one of every four youth. When asked if they had seriously considered suicide in the past 12 months, 15.8% of youth reported they had. That is almost out of every six.[i]
Oh, but suicide is just the beginning. Throw in rising pornography addiction, rampant teen sex, unquenchable consumerism, rising teen-committed rape, increased drug and alcohol use, and it seems that our children and youth are hurting and lost at every turn. While we adults have been preoccupied with chasing the dollar, destroying the planet, waging endless wars, and trying to buy our way to happiness, we have discarded our children and youth. We have sacrificed our children so that we might satisfy our greed, our envy, and our lust for more and more. Suicide as the third leading cause of death for young people is nothing less than the logical outcome of the single-minded pursuance of the American Dream.
No home is exempt from this troubling plague on our youth. A few weeks ago I attended a drug alliance conference that Hillview Mayor Jim Eadens hosted. At this public forum, Mayor Eadens spoke about how the drug problem had affected his own family. He said he took his children to church every Sunday and had a strong, loving family and yet drugs infiltrated their home and family. There are so many evils that are threatening our children today, even those families that seem to have it all together.
In ancient Palestine, the Caananite people concocted a god whom they named Moloch to whom they sacrificed their children. In order to satisfy the greed, the lust and the violence of this god of civilization, a child was occasionally thrown into the fire at Moloch’s temple, which was located in the valley of Gehenna. Jesus would later refer to Gehenna as hell. It was the worst possible place he could imagine, a place where children are thrown into the fire to satisfy the people’s greed and lust and violence for more and more and more. Though the sacrifices to Moloch had ended by Jesus’ day, children in every generation are discarded, neglected and sacrificed, as adults go about chasing possession and power. Jesus arrives on the scene as part of a long scriptural tradition that condemned such violence against children. Leviticus 18:21-23 says to the Israelite parents, “And you shall not let any of your children pass through the fire to Moloch.”
Society’s violence against our sons and daughters continues today. When
16% of teens have seriously considered suicide in the last twelve months we must realize that the society we have created and the institutions we have put in charge of our society are failing our children. We have thrown our children into Moloch’s fire. And our spiritual and scriptural tradition demands that we do something about it. Proverbs 24:11-12 instructs, “Rescue those who are unjustly sentenced to die; save them as they stagger to their death. Don’t excuse yourself by saying, “Look, we didn’t know.” For God understands all hearts, and he sees you. He who guards your soul knows you knew. He will repay all people as their actions deserve.”
For countless ages mothers have played a crucial role in saving our children from the fires of Moloch, from the greed, lust and violence of civilization in every generation. As the State and religious representatives of Moloch crucified Jesus, it was Jesus’ mother and other women who stood by him at the cross. The “sincere faith” and commitment of mothers is celebrated as “far more precious than jewels” (2 Timothy 1:5, Proverbs 31:10). I want to suggest today that our mothers play an important role in directing our children away from the violence, greed, lust and desolation of Moloch and toward the way of Jesus and his beautiful kingdom of God. Our children our hurting terribly and searching for a world they can live passionately into. That beautiful place is the kingdom of God, and mothers have a critical calling of pointing our children to the Jesus who will lead them there.
Jesus taught of a way of living he called the kingdom of God, which was a place of freedom, simplicity and compassionate community. Those who found their way into the kingdom of God were free from their violent tendencies to dominate over others and to acquire ever more and more things. Instead, they would live simply and in harmony with each other. They would live in compassionate community, not in the grasp of an insidious individualism that seeks only after personal concerns but also those of brothers and sisters in the community.
How do we save our children from a society that is literally killing our children and introduce our children to the kingdom of God? Well, we could try to fight the institutions that are destroying our children. Like Monika Spraggins, you could take a baseball bat and hit everyone who is harming our children. All of you mothers could drive a caravan to Madison Avenue and smash the windows the advertising agencies while demanding they stop creating irrational desires in the souls of our youth, desires to look a certain way, to wear certain clothes or have a particular kind of skin or hair or waist size. Of course, they would throw you in jail. Hopefully someone would come and visit you while you were behind bars. For those of you still left, you could drive to Washington D.C. and storm the White House and the Capitol Building demanding that the State stop supporting insidious policies that are destroying families, oppressing the poor and engaging us in endless wars that are killing children and youth in this country and in other countries. For those few of you still not behind bars, you could drive up to fast food restaurants and destroy the drive-thru windows while telling them to stop fattening our children with their super-sizes and extra-obesity and early-onset diabetes meals. Then for the few of you still not imprisoned, you could drive to the church, turn over its pews and cry out against the hypocrisy of churches that sing and preach of Jesus’ love but who have driven away the children. Mothers, you could do all those things, but you would not change much. Your violence against the system will not bring it to its knees. It always has more money and more power. Jesus knew this, too, and told us to not pick up our swords because those who live by the sword die by the sword.
A second option is this. You could pick up your children and run for the hills and hide. You could grab your children, drop out and try to run away from the madness and hide. At one point, that is what Mary wanted to do with Jesus. Jesus was teaching about the kingdom of God and resistance to the empire and Mary came to the crowd and tried to whisk him away. You mothers could put your money together and buy a hundred acre farm start a commune to get away from it all. You could call it Mothers Against Despair and Desolation. You could grow hummus and sing kumbayah every night, create your own paradise and leave over the other suffering children behind. There have been many times I wanted to pack the kids in the van and get away from the violence, the consumer madness and the insanity of civilization. But Jesus said we are to be lights in the world and salt of the earth. Our light was not meant to be put under a bushel but to shine in the world.
So mothers are to neither fight nor run and hide, so what is your option to protect your children from civilization’s angst and despair? The Gospels repeatedly offer one answer: Point your children to Jesus, because in Jesus there is an answer to the despair and desolation that our children are experiencing today. If you can point your children to Jesus, the Jesus who took on Moloch and his minions, you will point them to a way of living that is full of passion, life, purpose and beauty.
Jesus’ response to the violence, greed and lust of Moloch’s civilization was not to fight it or run from it but to simply ignore them, ignore their claims to legitimacy and authority. Who did he ignore? First, the lords of the State. Give Caesar his coins and give everything else to God. Don’t put your hope or trust in the lords of the State, because all they do is try to lord it over each other in endless fighting and corrupt laws that favor the few elite on the backs of the poor. He simply ignored them. He also ignored the consumer trap. We call it the American Dream. He called it Mammon. He rejected it as a worthy life endeavor. He also ignored the religious elites of his day. He called them hypocrites and oppressors of the poor.
So what is left when you have ignored the State, the consumer trap and the hypocritical, lazy religion? People have poured their lives and hearts into these three institutions for centuries. What is there for our children to do if they do not worship the State, chase the dollar and practice lazy, corrupt religion? What else is there to live for? All that is left is Jesus and the kingdom of God, and Jesus offers so much more than the lords of the State, the consumer trap and the religious hypocrites could ever offer. Jesus refused to live in a society that sacrificed its children to Moloch so that Moloch could grow in ever greater influence. Growth is all the lords of the state, the money people and the corrupt established religion people want. They want to grow more power, wealth and influence at the expense of our children. But growth for the sake of growth is the ideology of a cancer cell. Jesus refused to succumb to the cancer. Instead he pointed us and our children to a new community. It was a new kingdom not built on war, domination, wealth, possessions or religious legalism. It was a community of peaceable living, simple living and compassion and mutual care.
Mothers, point your children to Jesus, the radical Jesus who will lead your children into a fiery, passionate, liberating, compassionate way of living called the kingdom of God. It is a way that snubs its nose at Caesar and says we will not play by your oppressive, violent rules anymore. We will not worship you, Caesar. It is a way that does not chase after money and things as the purpose of life but rather lives simply, neighborly and kindly. It is a way where our children will not like sheep follow the practices of a church that is selfish and hypocritical. It will ignore all of these and seek first the kingdom of God. But most people worship all three of these entities, the state, the dollar and legalistic, lazy religion. So if teach your children to ignore these three sacred cows and to turn to Jesus and his kingdom, you are also offering your sons and daughters the cross of Jesus. For they will be rejected, seen as radicals, seen as enemies of society. But I would rather my children be viewed as enemies of a corrupt, violent society that is sacrificing our children to the fires of Moloch than as a patriot, a rich man or the average “churchgoer.” Point your children to Jesus, and stay near the cross, mom; Your child’s life depends on it.
[i] Overview of Report on Teen Suicide located at http://www.in.gov/attorneygeneral/2612.htm. Retrieved on May 12, 2012.


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